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A Woman Like: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack
A Woman Like: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
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 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
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 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
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astronomically-androngynous:
sounddesignerjeans:

princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves


Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much...

A Woman Like: So a woman's idea of being friends is A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is Hey listen to all my problems and keep me niambi ers Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there's a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have- you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subject s but rarely involves actually on about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can't get emotional support unless you're drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women's friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can't lean on her when you're weak, she's not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That's what a romantic partner does. But women think that's what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support they don't die when widowed at nearly the rate that wid- owers die and they don't suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don't put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn't manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can't reach out to male friends for basic friendship I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It's emotional, it's important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn't have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can't share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can't get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the worlid owes them the love of a woman, like it's a commodity... because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can't share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply miS The only way to fix this is to teach boys it's okay to love your friends. It's okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It's okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved so men, this one's on you. Women can't fix this for you; you don't listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, "What? You don't want to be my friend?" I'll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. fall-out-man Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it's called Friend vs Friendzone
A Woman Like: So a woman's idea of being friends is
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 niambi
 ers
 Oh my God this actually explains so much.
 So there's a known thing in the study of
 human psychology/sociology/what-have-
 you where men are known to, on average, rely
 entirely on their female romantic partner for
 emotional support. Bonding with other men
 is done at a more superficial level involving
 fun group activities and conversations about
 general subject
 s but rarely involves actually
 on
 about emotional problems. Men use alcohol
 to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to
 expose themselves emotionally to other men,
 but if you can't get emotional support unless
 you're drunk, you have a problem.
 So men need to have a woman in their lives to
 have anyone they can share their emotional
 needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since
 women are not socialized to fear sharing
 these things, women's friendships with other
 women are heavily based on emotional
 support. If you can't lean on her when you're
 weak, she's not your friend. To women, what
 friendship is is someone who listens to all
 your problems and keeps you company.
 So this disconnect men are suffering from
 is that they think that only a person who is
 having sex with you will share their emotions
 and expect support. That's what a romantic
 partner does. But women think that's what a
 friend does. So women do it for their romantic
 partners and their friends and expect a male
 friend to do it for them the same as a female
 friend would. This fools the male friend into
 thinking there must be something romantic
 there when there is not.
 This here is an example of patriarchy hurting
 everyone. Women have a much healthier
 approach to emotional support they don't
 die when widowed at nearly the rate that wid-
 owers die and they don't suffer emotionally
 from divorce nearly as much even though
 they suffer much more financially, and this is
 because women don't put all their emotional
 needs on one person. Women have a support
 network of other women. But men are trained
 to never share their emotions except with their
 wife or girlfriend, because that isn't manly. So
 when she dies or leaves them, they have no
 one to turn to to help with the grief, causing
 higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism
 and general awfulness upon losing a romantic
 partner
 So men suffer terribly from being trained in
 this way. But women suffer in that they can't
 reach out to male friends for basic friendship
 I am not sure any man can comprehend how
 heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you
 thought was your friend was really just trying
 to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It's
 emotional, it's important to us. We lean on our
 friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly
 seething with resentment when you were
 opening up to him and sharing your problems
 because he felt like he shouldn't have to do
 that kind of emotional work for anyone not
 having sex with him, and he felt used by
 you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact
 that men can't share emotional needs with
 other men means that lots of men who can't
 get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible
 misogynistic people who think the worlid
 owes them the love of a woman, like it's a
 commodity... because no one will die without
 sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die
 or suffer deep emotional trauma from having
 no one they can lean on emotionally. And men
 who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and
 have been trained to channel their personal
 trauma into rage because they can't share it,
 become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply
 miS
 The only way to fix this is to teach boys it's
 okay to love your friends. It's okay to share
 your needs and your problems with your
 friends. It's okay to lean on your friends, to
 hug your friends, to be weak with your friends.
 Only if this is okay for boys to do with their
 male friends can this problem be resolved
 so men, this one's on you. Women can't fix this
 for you; you don't listen to us about matters of
 what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit
 and teach your brothers and sons and friends
 that this is okay, or everyone suffers.
 The next time a guy says, "What? You
 don't want to be my friend?" I'll text him this
 and then ask if he really wants to be friends or
 just have another potential girlfriend.
 fall-out-man
 Im a communication student and
 can confirm the above is absolutely
 100% accurate and it's called
Friend vs Friendzone

Friend vs Friendzone

A Woman Like: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves
A Woman Like: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
sounddesignerjeans:
princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in...

A Woman Like: Jordan Gleason April 1 at 9:06pm This is a longer post, so bear with me... Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the pub In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that were working. He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their tits while they washed dishes, and their asses while they were pouring drinks. He was told to leave and not come back. He came back last month, and was told we wouldn't serve him. He came back yet again today, and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a manger l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would have been okay 20 years ago, and that it was just some off colour remarks. He told me he had apologized, and that he guessed my servers were too sensitive. He then told me that if what he said was a problem then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts, and that I should face the dish washing sink away from customers. But since he apologized, he should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the neighborhood and will bring in business l told him flatly that wasn't happening, and that what he said to those ladies was incredibly offensive. The simple fact that he couldn't understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they deserve his disrespectful language. That these ladies were part of my family, and were human beings that deserved respect. They aren't objects, and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect. "But we're men and they're females. Is cleavage just not a thing anymore?" I told him yeah buddy, it's not, and I won't be changing my mind about having him served. He threatened bad publicity, I told him I didn't care and he left. I work in the service industry, and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of meeting and talking to so many great people in our city. I've met some of my best friends here behind the bar. I live for it man. Connecting people who haven't met, making sure people can relax from a shitty day, or celebrate a great one, or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends. I've seen wedding proposals, birthday parties, political discussions, deep philosophical debates, neighborhood organization, the absolute works The best of humanity coming together and bonding. That's my JAM. It's one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to work day after day As absolutely insanely fun as that is, the dark side of this business is we run into some pretty horrible goblin people. Folks who think that just because we're serving, we don't deserve any basic decency or respect. I've been snapped at, mocked, threatened, and insulted about not having a real job. Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and develops a thicker skin. Here's the thing though, women in this field get infinitely more disgustingly treated. The sheer number of times they get groped, or harassed, or treated like objects would blow your mind. The worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is. Every single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb, andI applaud them for it. I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash, but countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a manager, and I get called in to speak with them. Every single fucking time they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man. They try to weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it. That women shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at. They attempt to explain it away as just "dudes being dudes." It's expected for men to stare at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck them. Wink Wink. Of course you'll understand they think, because you also have a dick. What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them thinks that this is normal behavior, but also that other men will agree with them Men, we often don't see the level of filth that our friends, sisters, and mothers go through every day. We hope to surround ourselves with people who would never treat a woman like that. We live in a safe little bubble. But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's happening every single day, several times a day and it turns my fucking stomach So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every single woman who will read this. You deserve our respect and to be treated with decency I want to stand up and say, I'm fucking sick of this To every dude out there, we need to fucking combat this disease like its the god damned plague that it is. If one of your friends says something shitty about a woman, tell him to shut his fucking mouth. Don't just laugh it off or ignore it. We need to listen when our sisters talk about this, and not just blame it on some bad apples. Not just say "not all dudes do that" or "well no one I know would ever do that." Nah man. This is an endemic cultural problem. If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick ourselves. We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it, because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what it is Edit: Sorry for so many edits. I keep finding typos. Writing in anger isn't so conducive to well typed responses rcmclachlan: This is what a male feminist looks like.
A Woman Like: Jordan Gleason
 April 1 at 9:06pm
 This is a longer post, so bear with me...
 Today I had to explain to a 60 year old man why he was banned from the
 pub
 In January he made several sexist remarks about the female staff that
 were working. He told them to their faces that that he liked looking at their
 tits while they washed dishes, and their asses while they were pouring
 drinks. He was told to leave and not come back. He came back last
 month, and was told we wouldn't serve him. He came back yet again
 today, and when told he wouldn't be served demanded to talk to a
 manger
 l sat with him for a few minutes as he explained that what he said would
 have been okay 20 years ago, and that it was just some off colour
 remarks. He told me he had apologized, and that he guessed my servers
 were too sensitive. He then told me that if what he said was a problem
 then I should tell them not to wear low cut shirts, and that I should face the
 dish washing sink away from customers. But since he apologized, he
 should be allowed to drink in my establishment because he lives in the
 neighborhood and will bring in business
 l told him flatly that wasn't happening, and that what he said to those
 ladies was incredibly offensive. The simple fact that he couldn't
 understand that just because they were were working didn't mean they
 deserve his disrespectful language. That these ladies were part of my
 family, and were human beings that deserved respect. They aren't
 objects, and they certainly shouldn't have to wear different clothes
 because he can't be bothered with showing them any decency or respect.
 "But we're men and they're females. Is cleavage just not a thing
 anymore?"
 I told him yeah buddy, it's not, and I won't be changing my mind about
 having him served. He threatened bad publicity, I told him I didn't care
 and he left.
 I work in the service industry, and we get the sheer joy and pleasure of
 meeting and talking to so many great people in our city. I've met some of
 my best friends here behind the bar. I live for it man. Connecting people
 who haven't met, making sure people can relax from a shitty day, or
 celebrate a great one, or just to simply enjoy a few beers with friends. I've
 seen wedding proposals, birthday parties, political discussions, deep
 philosophical debates, neighborhood organization, the absolute works
 The best of humanity coming together and bonding. That's my JAM. It's
 one of the biggest reasons l get out of bed in the morning to come in to
 work day after day

 As absolutely insanely fun as that is, the dark side of this business is we
 run into some pretty horrible goblin people. Folks who think that just
 because we're serving, we don't deserve any basic decency or respect.
 I've been snapped at, mocked, threatened, and insulted about not having
 a real job. Anybody in this line of work gets used to a degree of it and
 develops a thicker skin. Here's the thing though, women in this field get
 infinitely more disgustingly treated. The sheer number of times they get
 groped, or harassed, or treated like objects would blow your mind. The
 worst of it is how normal their harassers think their behavior is. Every
 single lady in here handles it with grace and aplomb, andI applaud them
 for it. I've had their backs as we've bounced people out for that trash, but
 countless times they just deal with it before it even gets to me
 Sometimes the dudes get so worked up that they demand to see a
 manager, and I get called in to speak with them. Every single fucking time
 they attempt to appeal to me solely because I'm a man. They try to
 weasel in with me about how the women are asking for it. That women
 shouldn't dress that way if they don't want to be stared at. They attempt to
 explain it away as just "dudes being dudes." It's expected for men to stare
 at women's breasts and make jokes about how much they want to fuck
 them. Wink Wink. Of course you'll understand they think, because you
 also have a dick. What terrifies and enrages me is how every one of them
 thinks that this is normal behavior, but also that other men will agree with
 them
 Men, we often don't see the level of filth that our friends, sisters, and
 mothers go through every day. We hope to surround ourselves with
 people who would never treat a woman like that. We live in a safe little
 bubble. But the reality of this thing? It's an insidious disease that's
 happening every single day, several times a day and it turns my fucking
 stomach
 So why am I writing this? I want to acknowledge the struggle of every
 single woman who will read this. You deserve our respect and to be
 treated with decency I want to stand up and say, I'm fucking sick of this
 To every dude out there, we need to fucking combat this disease like its
 the god damned plague that it is. If one of your friends says something
 shitty about a woman, tell him to shut his fucking mouth. Don't just laugh it
 off or ignore it. We need to listen when our sisters talk about this, and not
 just blame it on some bad apples. Not just say "not all dudes do that" or
 "well no one I know would ever do that." Nah man. This is an endemic
 cultural problem. If we want to start taking our status as gentlemen
 seriously we need to do more than just avoiding being a sexist prick
 ourselves. We need to open our eyes and fight it everywhere we see it,
 because the only way this thing gets better is to start calling it out for what
 it is
 Edit: Sorry for so many edits. I keep finding typos. Writing in anger isn't so
 conducive to well typed responses
rcmclachlan:

This is what a male feminist looks like.

rcmclachlan: This is what a male feminist looks like.

A Woman Like: When a journalist interviews a woman like Jane Raymond, who has been in the game developement business for 20 years, she says she's never had any problems. I. told. you People think Twitter is the game industry, the actual game industry is fine You can't just show up, and everyone gives you a job and money or they are sexist. You really do have to git gud. Are you seeing the pattern here yet? 10+ years industry veterans "No problem bros" 6 month 2 years entrants making garbage- "wah sexism" You'd be lying if you said you'd never noticed that pattern. Everyone thinks it, just nobody says it. You suck at first and people don't like it - trust me,I know. But it's not about your genitalia. - Jennifer Dawe, Artist and Game Developer Over 10 years of experience "I HAVE NO TIME FOR BITCHING AND COMPLAINING." "But I think ultimately, it's the people who have those kind of opinions or make that noise [who] are a minority. They're sort of living in the anonymity of the internet. I think that side of things exists in every industry. I think with what's happened this year, I kind of feel like, 'Why is everyone picking on video games as being a bad industry Because even though I've had a bad end of the stick, I still love the industry. Yes, I think there are some games, you know, yes, whatever, portrayal of women can be improved. Yes, it can be improved in every single frickin' entertainment form. Movies, even the magazines that we buy. Women buy these magazines and on the cover of these magazines, women are wearing sexy outfits. You see cleavage, all this stuff. These are the magazines we choose to buy for ourselves. I feel like as a person who loves the game industry and likes making games, action games, I made Assassin's Creed - it's a game where you assassinate guys and you have a big sword and stuff. I like bad action movies. I like what we do and I don't feel like it all has to be so. anyway, I wish we weren't picking on the game industry so much." As one of very few women in senior creative positions in the video game industry, Hennig is often asked about sexism and challenges she has faced. But she says it's not an issue. "Usually it has been men who gave me the opportunities I have had. I think this is a young enough and progressive enough industry that there just isn't any of that. Los Angeles Times, Feb 2010, "How l Made It: Amy Hennig" PlayStation.a OOD O LEGACY KAIN No, I never experienced any problem with being a female in a so-called male- dominated field. They were happy to have me. It was just really up to me to actually 'put' myself there. If more women want to be a part of the computer industry today, they just have to do more to put themselves there. Nobody, in reality, is keeping them out.. in my opinion, anyway." -Roberta Williams, co-founder of Sierra On-Line, designer of King's Quest, Phantasmagoria, Mixed-Up Mother Goose, Shivers, and many other games; in a 2006 interview <p>InB4 &ldquo;muh Internalized misogneh&rdquo;</p>
A Woman Like: When a journalist interviews a woman like
 Jane Raymond, who has been in the game
 developement business for 20 years, she says
 she's never had any problems.
 I. told. you
 People think Twitter is the game industry,
 the actual game industry is fine
 You can't just show up, and everyone gives
 you a job and money or they are sexist.
 You really do have to git gud.
 Are you seeing the pattern here yet?
 10+ years industry veterans "No problem bros"
 6 month 2 years entrants making garbage-
 "wah sexism"
 You'd be lying if you said you'd never
 noticed that pattern.
 Everyone thinks it, just nobody says it.
 You suck at first and people don't like it -
 trust me,I know.
 But it's not about your genitalia.
 - Jennifer Dawe, Artist and Game Developer
 Over 10 years of experience

 "I HAVE NO TIME FOR
 BITCHING AND
 COMPLAINING."
 "But I think ultimately, it's the people who
 have those kind of opinions or make that
 noise [who] are a minority. They're sort of
 living in the anonymity of the internet. I
 think that side of things exists in every
 industry. I think with what's happened this
 year, I kind of feel like, 'Why is everyone
 picking on video games as being a bad industry Because even though I've had a bad end
 of the stick, I still love the industry. Yes, I think there are some games, you know, yes,
 whatever, portrayal of women can be improved. Yes, it can be improved in every single
 frickin' entertainment form. Movies, even the magazines that we buy. Women buy these
 magazines and on the cover of these magazines, women are wearing sexy outfits. You see
 cleavage, all this stuff. These are the magazines we choose to buy for ourselves. I feel like
 as a person who loves the game industry and likes making games, action games, I made
 Assassin's Creed - it's a game where you assassinate guys and you have a big sword and
 stuff. I like bad action movies. I like what we do and I don't feel like it all has to be so.
 anyway, I wish we weren't picking on the game industry so much."

 As one of very few women in senior
 creative positions in the video game
 industry, Hennig is often asked about
 sexism and challenges she has faced.
 But she says it's not an issue.
 "Usually it has been men who gave me
 the opportunities I have had. I think this
 is a young enough and progressive
 enough industry that there just isn't
 any of that.
 Los Angeles Times, Feb 2010, "How
 l Made It: Amy Hennig"
 PlayStation.a
 OOD O
 LEGACY
 KAIN

 No, I never experienced any problem with
 being a female in a so-called male-
 dominated field. They were happy to have
 me. It was just really up to me to actually
 'put' myself there.
 If more women want to be a part of the
 computer industry today, they just have
 to do more to put themselves there.
 Nobody, in reality, is keeping them out..
 in my opinion, anyway."
 -Roberta Williams, co-founder of
 Sierra On-Line, designer of King's
 Quest, Phantasmagoria, Mixed-Up
 Mother Goose, Shivers, and many
 other games; in a 2006 interview
<p>InB4 &ldquo;muh Internalized misogneh&rdquo;</p>

<p>InB4 &ldquo;muh Internalized misogneh&rdquo;</p>