Has anyone married as a result of a if we're still single by age pact? How did it work out? self AskReddit 4808 comments Has anyone married as a result of a if we're still single by age pact? How did it work out? self AskReddit 4808 comments ▼ AlexClifford +8049 Probably too late for this not to get buried but I have a story about this We met in college and were instant best friends I was 20 she was 18 We spent all our time together and were briefly lovers but we never formally dated because both of us were very much into being wild and free and enjoying our youth We dated other people on and off but we talked about it and agreed that a committed relationship between the two of us would be an all-or-nothing kind of thing Since neither of us wanted to give up our hedonistic promiscuous irresponsible lifestyle we made a point of not committing to a relationship A few years went by that way and we were very happy right up until her sisters died It was a car accident They were 16 and 18 and both were killed in the crash Dead on arrival at the hospital My friend was utterly completely devastated It still hurts me to remember it even now Her father though was even more devastated to the point where he was legitimately willing to let himself starve to death rather than try to go on living She moved home out of state to take care of him She cut ties with everyone for awhile even me I didn't see her again for two years She was so different after that Before the accident she'd always been the most joyful exuberant positive person I'd ever met After she came back she was quieter sadder maybe wiser I wanted to be there for her more than I'd ever wanted anything in the world Not being able to fix things for her not being able to make it better that hurt more than anything I could ever remember I guess that's when I realized how in love with her I was I told her that I loved her that I wanted to be there with hr and she told me that she couldn't handle the idea of any kind of emotional connection for awhile Maybe a few years she said Maybe never Maybe she'd never be able to open up emotionally again She said she needed space from me particularly from me She said she needed to figure out what it meant to be alive in a world where her sisters were gone She asked me to give her time and I told her that I'd give her anything she wanted She told me that she'd never been happier than she was when we were together I told her the same I told her that I understood and that's when we made our pact I was 25 then and she was 23 We agreed if she turned 30 and I turned 32 and if she had learned to heal an if she hadn't fallen in love with someone else and if I hadn'ti fallen in love with someone else then we'd get married So that's how we parted ways She moved to Wyoming to be alone I moved to Germany to get as far away from her as I could We didn't keep in touch at first but over the next few years we built up a correspondence We wrote letters because we both liked writing letters We emailed now and then Sometimes we'd mail each other books that we thought the other would like Years went on and we became closer and closer When I turned 30 I half-jokingly brought up our marriage pact I told her that I hadn't ever fallen for anyone else I didn't mention this but I couldn't have fallen for anyone else I always compared every other woman to her and in my memory she was perfect She replied that she was still very serious about our agreement and that she'd never fallen in love with anyone When I turned 30 I half-jokingly brought up our marriage pact I told her that I hadn't ever fallen for anyone else I didn't mention this but I couldn't have fallen for anyone else I always compared every other woman to her and in my memory she was perfect She replied that she was still very serious about our agreement and that she'd never fallen in love with anyone else either I asked her if she thought she had begun to hea and she said she had as much as a person could ever heal from something like that A year later she told me she'd like us to meet and spend some time together to see if the spark was still there It was She was living in California at that time and I found a job there I'd always wanted to live in California anyway I proposed to her six months later and she smiled and told me no fair that I had to wait another few months when she'd be turning 30 I thought it was silly but at that point things were going so well that a few months didn't seem like they could matter at all But I'm crying now so I'll have to wrap this up quickly She died That's how the story ends She was hit by a drunk driver and spent 2 days in the ICU before her body gave out I went to her funeral I spoke to her father but I barely remember what we said I've never spoken to him since I don't have the willpower to make myself find out how he's doing That will be four years ago this November I'm in therapy and trying to learn how to have feelings again other than blank mindless miserable rage I often wonder if this is what it felt like for her She made progress She learned to feel again That thought is what keeps me going She did it She'd want me to do it That's it That's the story It's a shitty story and I hate it This may be the saddest thing I’ve ever read httpstcom9GdrbVKur Meme

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