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Advice, Asian, and Saw: High functioning here. For me, I found out at age 23 shortly after being told that empathy was a tangible feeling that people felt. My partner tried to explain it to me because l had never experienced it before. Whenever I saw people go through emotional shit I was like Why are they making themselves upset about their situation? That's very impractical." And would always try to give them a practical solution to their problems when what they wanted was for me to listen and pretend to understand. It's hard to gauge whether my now learned faux empathy is disingenuous or if the fact that i think to make the effort to pretend to be able to connect with others' self inflicted emotional turmoil counts as truly caring. I like to think that it does. I also have never felt the feeling of something being too complicated to understand. Case in point, I'm fluent in 7 Asian languages that I basically picked up by osmosis. This often makes it really hard for me to deal with people of average intelligence because I'm simply unable to understand how it would feel to struggle to learn or understand something. It appears where others must make a huge effort to understand things, I must make an even greater effort to try and understand why they don't understand things. It can be very challenging sometimes Like Reply。 7 . 13 hrs . Edited Same except l've known for a while and have a fair bit of practice at emotive jargon so l think I can "pass" fairly wel now, at least by average neurotypical standards Like Reply 1 13 hrs its a struggle, but as said, if you're aware you can practice and observe how neurotypicals interact. The trick is emulating it. Like Reply 3 hrs I usually just give em one of these and whatever part of their brain thinks emotions are useful for problem solving quiets down "Oh, that must have been so difficult for you. I'm so sorry that happened. I can only imagine how hard that must have been. You're such a strong person." Like Reply 1 3 hrs That line has pulled me out of a few situations where a lack of empathy would have made it more awkward Like Reply 1 3hrs Yep, until it turns into "Oh, you're such a great friend. Why cant I find a guy like you..." Like Reply 12 hrs. Edited Oh man.. that's my nightmare 1 . 2 hrs Like . Reply
Advice, Asian, and Saw: High functioning here. For me, I found out at age 23 shortly after
 being told that empathy was a tangible feeling that people felt. My partner tried
 to explain it to me because l had never experienced it before. Whenever I saw
 people go through emotional shit I was like Why are they making themselves
 upset about their situation? That's very impractical." And would always try to
 give them a practical solution to their problems when what they wanted was for
 me to listen and pretend to understand. It's hard to gauge whether my now
 learned faux empathy is disingenuous or if the fact that i think to make the
 effort to pretend to be able to connect with others' self inflicted emotional
 turmoil counts as truly caring. I like to think that it does. I also have never felt
 the feeling of something being too complicated to understand. Case in point,
 I'm fluent in 7 Asian languages that I basically picked up by osmosis. This often
 makes it really hard for me to deal with people of average intelligence because
 I'm simply unable to understand how it would feel to struggle to learn or
 understand something. It appears where others must make a huge effort to
 understand things, I must make an even greater effort to try and understand
 why they don't understand things. It can be very challenging sometimes
 Like Reply。 7 . 13 hrs . Edited
 Same except l've known for a while and have a
 fair bit of practice at emotive jargon so l think I can "pass" fairly wel
 now, at least by average neurotypical standards
 Like Reply 1 13 hrs
 its a struggle, but as
 said, if you're aware
 you can practice and observe how neurotypicals interact. The trick is
 emulating it.
 Like Reply 3 hrs
 I usually just give em one of these and whatever part of
 their brain thinks emotions are useful for problem solving quiets down
 "Oh, that must have been so difficult for you. I'm so sorry that
 happened. I can only imagine how hard that must have been. You're
 such a strong person."
 Like Reply 1 3 hrs
 That line has pulled me out of a few situations where
 a lack of empathy would have made it more awkward
 Like Reply 1 3hrs
 Yep, until it turns into "Oh, you're such a great friend.
 Why cant I find a guy like you..."
 Like Reply 12 hrs. Edited
 Oh man.. that's my nightmare
 1 . 2 hrs
 Like . Reply